ut all they care about is their kinks.

It sucks when people only care about their own kinks. Its about both partners, I agree with that.

She is saying

No, she is absolutely not saying that - she wrote "Expecting a domme to be interested in fulfilling your fantasies is unreasonable and selfish". Its about both partners in a relationship and both are supposed to get their needs met - and that is where compatiblity comes into play. You write into your post what makes you happy and if the person reading it gets off on these things too then thats a functional non abusive foundation for a relationship. This woman is looking for a fetish dispenser she can use without having to care for him at all. If youre into that mate then go for it and reply to her 5 sentence post I'm sure you two get along just fine!