I never said I wasn't complicit and at fault in this situation. I'm just saying that it actually IS black and white when you're the partner who is cheating.

There is more context to my involvement, which is essentially that he was that "glue" person that a social group tends to revolve around. I'd just moved to here and literally had no other friends but this group and was severely depressed & had zero self confidence - so genuinely believed that he thought I was "special" and also that if I didn't socialise with THIS group, then I wouldn't have ANY friends - which is exactly the situation I had moved to get away from. None of this excuses my behaviour, however now that I understand it, I at least know the reasons why I acted that way and know that I wouldn't ever do it again.

I have since gotten better mental health wise, and realise that he was, if not knowingly seeking out someone to use their vulnerability to his own advantage, at least taking advantage of the situation that presented itself. I've also got a great, supportive, amazing group of friends who only grope me when I ask them to, and have met someone who treated me with so much more respect and care within the first hour of meeting than this guy did in the 3 years I have unfortunatley known him (we still have some mutual friends which means I have to see him socially on occasion - I avoid talking to him where I can, and will ALWAYS avoid being alone with him)