Saw this girl a couple of times over the course of last year, but it never worked out. We'd hang out, watch soccer, drink and go to dinner or a show... And then she'd basically flake out after a few weeks.

A couple weeks ago I got drunk and reached out, again she said she wanted to get together. She comes over last Sunday and stays until Tuesday afternoon. During that time she is super affectionate and opens up about how much difficulty she's having in life - tells me that she needs to get help with her drinking. I was so happy to hear her say that, and to feel like I would be able to help her.

She left Tuesday planning to come over Friday and start a week of not drinking together. Friday comes and she never reaches out - in the afternoon I ask her what's up and she apologizes for breaking our resolution already. I was pissed and explained that I set this day aside etc and she apologized again, and promised to hang out on Sunday, have brunch and start the cleanse.

Yesterday comes around and she texts at 8am saying she's super hung over and has a lot to do. I go have my day (jk I played fm on the couch and felt sorry for myself) and finally around 6pm she offers to come over to watch a movie, then backs out of even that. Apologized for being flakey and unreliable and I told her how shitty it made me feel.

So I want to quit on her again - the flakiness is what always drives me away - but I feel this immense responsibility to help her w the drinking. I realize that this is probably not going to work out romantically - but this person has no one else (not even family) who will help them get sober. Has anyone been through this before? Im just planning on offering support but not making plans with her anymore.

Thanks for whoever set this thread up, I woke up feeling worthless and needed to vent.