My first sexual experience was rape. I'm a man and it was a woman who I believe put something in my drink bc I couldn't move my arms. I think my experience was not nearly as bad as like 99% of rape victims.. I didn't press charges and I'm glad I didn't in hindsight. I think she is someone who made a mistake, an awful one. I'm someone who can survive something like that and be ok. I escaped with no STD. She took my virginity away which was precious to me at that time for better or worse... But I forgave her and moved on. I'm not saying what I did is what other people should do. I just think things can fall on a spectrum. She became a really good nurse by all accounts and I never heard of her doing that to anyone else. We were both young and it was a mistake.