Are y'all actually setting kids up for the real world though? Or are you typically setting them up for the ultimate goal of going off to college?
My kid is 10 right now. She's not sure if she wants to follow in her dad's footsteps, join his union and become a welder, or go to college for archaeology.
If I knew she was going to go the welder route, I'd be a lot more comfortable with the idea of learning through mistakes/failures, so that if/when everything goes to shit someday when she's an adult, she's developed and practiced the skill of picking up the pieces and putting her life back together. TBH though, unless you're going to a highschool that offers welding, very little other than, reading, math, a little science, and very basic writing are actually preparing you for this version of "real life."
On the other hand, with middle school looming in the near future, if she wants to go the academic route, she really cannot afford to mess up. We cannot afford to pay for a fancy college. The only viable way will be scholarships. My kid is smart, and she is fascinated by history. She just devoured a book on Daniel Ellsberg and the Pentagon Papers, a few months back she read a book written in 1898 about the last queen of Hawaii, and her extensive knowledge of Greek mythology has led her to start reading various ancient Greek philosophers (these are all paper books, not audio). I really don't know how she ended up like this.
Anyway, despite all that, she has a lot of trouble with spelling and she takes a long time on tests that involve any writing. We work on spelling and writing together every day, but this problem is not going away. She is going to need significant accommodations (like extra time on tests and speech to text) and she will need them through college and probably beyond. If she didn't have this burning desire to learn, I could probably get on board with the expiration date, but this path doesn't exactly lead to the real world. It leads to college, where she will get extra time and use speech to text.