Rant: My husband tells me he doesn't think I'm autistic with ADHD, and that I just have ADHD and some autistic traits.

This comment was posted to reddit on Aug 25, 2022 at 9:21 pm and was deleted within 13 hour(s) and 5 minutes.

We have been together for over a decade and have lots and lots of long talks. He knows me better than anyone else in my life does because he is the person who I trust the most. I'm sure he doesn't think I'm making it up, but I do. I also thought I was being dramatic about my migraines before I was diagnosed though (spoiler alert, I wasn't) so it is a common pattern for me to gaslight myself. It's like I've got a little Gollum in my head sometimes lol.
I also tend to assign morality to my behavior and characteristics and have for as long as he has known me. I'm very good at mentally berating myself over even the tiniest things and I have really unreasonable goals for how I should be. He has always uplifted me and made me feel better about myself when I am being unkind to myself. I think that he is expecting me to have some negative thoughts about myself possibly being autistic and he knows that I am not always open about those kinds of things at first. I don't think he means it to come off as dismissive but I think I'll talk to him about it tonight.