First, I'm her BF, she's my GF - explicitly defined for almost a year now.

We've been having chats about starting a family in the next 3 years, getting a place together etc (obviously, I'm skeptical because I'm a Red Piller). We were joking around the other day, I was doing my laundry and I said "fuck, I really need a wife to do this shit for me". She quickly quipped back "Well, why don't you marry me then". I responded with "Let's not get crazy". Little note.

As far her being over a lot, we usually spend one night and one morning together on the weekend making badass food. We're both fitness nuts and don't get to eat delicious food often so these are our dates. The rest, we might go to the gym together and I'll train her (with small input from her). 1-2x/week we'll have a spontaneous hangout. She has spent the last 2 weekends with me almost the whole weekend. I work hard during the week and am just drained on weekends. I've never missed a gym day though, and I have a shredded 190 lbs bodybuilder body.

As for shit tests... She's obviously insecure about other women, and will make comments. 80% of the time, they're comfort test. Recently, she's gotten a new job in an admin role at a tax company (and she's surrounded by high earners which I am not yet). The shit tests have started. Little things like "One of the partners totally just checked me out, didn't think I was looking lol". I responded with "time to flirt your way to the top". Shit like this.

The biggest issue in the picture though, is that we have someone, who we don't know texting me shit about her suggesting she's unfaithful. It could be an ex or someone interested in breaking us up. Anyway, I usually delete them, but she requested to see one. I sent it to her and she became very upset...

"I don't deserve this shit". "I don't need this in my life, it's not fair". "This is why I keep to myself and don't tell anyone anything about my life". "This has to be someone you know because no one I know would go out of their way" etc.

She's been down since she saw the message. Just annoyed with me as though it's my fault.