So glad I found this sub! 44 - post menopausal and in the struggle of my life with every physician to not be gaslit and told “I’m too young” something else must be wrong with you. We’ve conducted every test under the sun and everything points back to post menopausal. Last period was 12/9/2020 with spotting 1/7/2021. I have cycle tracking history that dates back 4 years in my phone and I can safely say I was in perimenopause in my mid to late 30s.

The hardest part as of late was the sudden weight gain, the hair loss over the last year where I have bald spots now where I’ve never experienced this before, the sleepless nights, waking up feeling as if the A/C in my Florida home suddenly stopped because I am sopping wet while my poor husband is bundled like it’s an Alaskan winter. One day I’m crying uncontrollably and another I’m raging for no reason. My daily bowel habits went from being as the sun rises and sets to how my periods were: maybe we’ll have one maybe we won’t. Despite my diet.

I’m an athlete and CrossFit coach so I’m extremely active. I’ve cut out dairy, gluten, processed sugars. My vitamin list is so long I had a friend and fellow coach ask me if I was dying because of my hair loss and vitamins. Just to help mitigate what’s going on and help me feel normal. I would LOVE to do HRT/MHT as I started TRT (testosterone replacement therapy) when I was 34 because I was watching my libido take a huge nose dive. I would have rather read a book than have sex with my very attractive and pleasing husband. My OB/GYN sent me home with lube and suggested I watch adult films. Instead I sought a naturopath who helped treat me and also helped my vitaminD and B deficiency and I felt and looked amazing! Now I feel like an old woman with old skin and a dried up vagina. My kids are 18, 14 & 14 and I would love if my doctors would just stop asking me to take a pregnancy test despite my husband’s vasectomy in 2010 and my lack of a period so we can actually have a real discussion and treatment and how to move forward.