You know what bugs me? How I can't celebrate my own personal victories with my wife.

At work (grocery store), hot female co-worker follows me in to the backroom and grabs my junk thru my pants and make it clear that she's totally down. I politely tell her to stop, cuz I'm married, and even though I find her attractive, I have to walk away right then and there because I'm married.

It wasn't easy to do, you know. I'm not a very attractive guy and I never did any playing the field before getting married. I was very tempted to give in to her aggressive advances. And I didn't do it. I held strong and walked away.

But I can never tell my wife how strong I was. She'll never believe that I walked away just like that. She'll think I did something to invite the advance. So I never get to reveal how hard it was to resist such an appealing offer.

My wife will never know that I did that. I know I didnt do anything special. I know I did what I'm expected to do. But it was still difficult and I know many guys wouldn't have been able to resist and I did and I will never get any recognition or appreciation for my strength in that moment.

Edit: read what I wrote. I know it's not special or noteworthy. It's what I'm expected to do. We don't celebrate everytime someone doesn't steal or kill someone. But I'm glad I was able to stay strong in the face of a challenge. Like an alcoholic declining a beer or an overweight person declining to eat an entire pizza. Sure, that's expected. You shouldn't ever eat an entire pizza. But if you feel compelled to eat a whole pizza and you overcome that and decide to do the right thing and skip the pizza, then I say you should feel proud.

See what I mean? God, I hope someone gets what I mean. Everyone's making me out to be a bad guy because I didn't cheat on my wife, or because I'm glad that I didn't. Just like the dude who chose to stop eating entire pizzas, I'm proud of my strength. It might be super easy for most people, but it was a challenge for me. And I rose to the challenge. I've been with my lady for 14 years and I'm not giving her up. Ever. I'm never gonna give her up. Or let her down.