I wish my ex would have had the insight you did. She did it in a back and forth manner that seemed to only further the depression I suffered towards the end of our relationship. Luckily, I choose to begin therapy immediately after the breakup and it has not only healed my soul, it also opened my eyes. I can truly show her love by never attempting or receiving any form of contact ever again. She deserves piece and I am aware enough to know the woman I fell for no longer exists, except in my memories. And I am confident that with continued therapy and self love those will fade into obscurity. We all deserve the hope of finding love even those who hurt each other. Be well everyone.