Before I met my current girlfriend, I was in two relationships that ended traumatically for me and where my ex-partners took advantage of my borderline to keep me attached to them. When I talked to my ex-girlfriend about simple things like regular affection, I would hear things like “No one wants a girl with mental health problems like that, you're lucky I picked you up otherwise no one would”. After that I dated two people who took advantage of my sensitive and emotional personality for sex. They broke my mental condition as low as it could go and then disappeared. Neither my ex-partners nor the people I dated wanted to know about my borderline. They didn't want to talk to me about it and left me alone in difficult situations.

My girlfriend, who I have known since June, talks to me about everything without judging me. She tries to help me as much as she can when I'm in a down phase and don't know what to do. She watches informative videos about borderline together with me, even talked to her therapist about it to get tips. She also wrote down my triggers.

She gives me so much love and affection, shows me regularly that I am valuable. What I'm saying is that a healthy relationship is definitely achievable, sometimes it just takes time. For me, it took six years.