I think you are too focused on the wrong things.

my wife said back when we were still just dating, that she was never really concerned with penis size until it hurt. So from my understanding some women do wonder what a big dick feels like if they have never experienced it. But not to a degree it will be the deciding factor on the level of enjoyment or mate selection. There are outliers (size queens) but the majority of women don't REALLY think about it until there is a problem. Sure it comes up sometimes in girl talk, but its not serious thought.

So in my opinion the Mr Average has it best. it always works and does the job well enough that women focus on the act and not the tool.

I know for a fact my girth causes my wife to pass on spontaneous sex regularly, Because there is generally discomfort involved. So if she is just mildly turned on she then weighs the decision and usually doesn't initiate sex. So I have much more warm up time and work to do just to get any. Amd if I were of average girth, we would have a much more active sex life because she won't have to weigh the decision each time.

I think at this point If i continue i would just be rambling, but hopefully you get the idea. Basically dont worry about your size so much and let the good times roll man.