Thanks.

I had a nurse call me out last week on exactly what you are talking about. She said I sounded ungreatful. And truth be told, I am not greatful that he is doing part of the housework and doing it poorly. Laundry bothers me. So I told him I would like to keep mine separate SO that I can handle it. But never complained.

He cleaned the bathrooms. He didn't clean the tub, even though thats the only part I asked him to clean. The counter was gross, the toilet was sticky, and I don't know what he cleaned the mirror with .. but it was dirtier than before. I didn't complain!! I told him thank you and then cleaned every thing myself when he left to go bowling.

He needs to vaccume, so he picks up every thing off the floor. and doesn't put it back, or away. He put a sock on the table I just cleaned. Trash on the table next to me that I jsut cleaned. And never picked it up. He can't do any thing without me having to do more work. it feels like

Any time I ask for help he does exactly what I say and no more. We are making a meal. Some thing needs to come out of the oven and som ething needs to be microwaved at teh same time. I ask him to pull the thing out of the oven because I have a huge headache. And he does that, he doesn't think to do any more. So then I ask him to heat thing up too, and he gives me this stupid fucking look like "why didn't you use your words (because usually my words are really mean and I am smart enough not to ask him why the fuck he only does the bare minimum)" and then does it. But it;s again, all the time. The vacuum example is kind of like this issue too.

if it was one thing or another then I could brush it off but its all this building. I know he is being amazing and helping but it's so double sided.

He chalks every thing up to me being pissy because of hormones, when part of it isn't. Like he works seasonally, and I got a job to get me out of the house and away from him and myself, and hopefully getting myself directed toward some thing else. But a large part of it is actually that we went from me cooking and cleaning 24/7 to him doing it. And I don't want it done "my way" I just want the house to not have trash all over it. He asked to be asked to do every little thing. and clutter gives me anxiety. The only thing that I want done "my way" is the dishes. He leaves the dishwasher empty instead of putting dirty dishes in it. SO if I want to use the sink or thaw meat, I have to do the dishes every time. He did them twice while he was working.

we are also newly married. I was pregnant before and I was chipper and happy, and this time I'm so endlessly miserable.