Yes, you're right, I didn't look at legal definitions. According to the page you provide:
"What constitutes lack of consent usually includes saying "no" or being too drunk or drug-influenced for the woman to be able to either resist or consent, but a recent Pennsylvania case ruled that a woman must do more than say "no" on the bizarre theory that "no" does not always mean "don't," but a flirtatious come-on. "Date rape," involves rape by an acquaintance who refuses to stop when told to. Defense attorneys often argue that there had to be physical resistance, but the modern view is that fear of harm and the relative strengths of the man and the woman are obvious deterrents to a woman fighting back."
"In addition to such obstacles, various exceptions weakened rape shield laws. In particular, they provided little or no protection if the victim knew her assailant. Most state statutes allowed the admission of evidence about a past sexual relationship between the accuser and the defendant, and therefore defense attorneys often attempted to persuade juries that there had been such a relationship. Behavior by a woman that was even slightly indicative of a past sexual relationship with her assailant would work against her at trial."
"Defense attorneys typically challenge the accuser's credibility. For centuries, there was one effective path to such an end: to present evidence of the victim's past sexual behavior to undermine the present allegation. At common law, the victim's past sexual behavior was always considered relevant and admissible at trial."
Let´s remember OP stated:
He'd only write to me and call me from jail. When I was 14 we met and started to have a relationship.
I was also molested at 14 by a 36 year old women till I was 17-1/2. She's now running from the law hiding out in Florida.
It's clear that OP doesn't has a trustable credibility, considering her past history.
My name is Phoenix Wright, sir. See you in court.
(I'm 17 years old. I want to be a pornstar (Infinite cums), lawyer and writer. Nice to meet you.)