Your father is probably dealing with it the best he can... everyone deals with grief differently. It doesn't mean that the love the person they lost any less, but it might mean that they might want to avoid the pain of thinking about it by moving on quickly. His friend might be a comfort.

I think feeling it is important. Not telling yourself to get over it or to accept it bravely. I wrote this to myself when I was dealing with my own pain. I lost my mother very young. I apologize for its length.

I can see the destination But not the steps to take The ground is passing blurred beneath my feet The path that I have taken, only yesterday Won’t lead me home now, won’t lead me home

And I’m not o.k. I’m not o.k. I’m not o.k. And that’s all right now…

And it’s not o.k. It’s not o.k. It’s not o.k. And that’s all right for now…

I don’t know how this life got so… complicated… I can’t see where my feet should land… Each step I take forward; Only take me back. And I can’t move on…

This ache, it does not have its end I'm told I'll grow stronger with each step The pain, it does not have its end We're just forced to get stronger as we go… carrying it. as we go… carrying it.

Walk on forward It gets easier You'll get stronger The struggle will shout more softly And that’s alright You’re alright

Pain isn’t fair to those who can’t seem to go on The past is nipping at our heals But we can make the choice of who, in all of this, will win You can make the choice that you will win

Healing crawls at its own pace with a clock at its back Healing crawls at its own pace with a clock at its back Healing crawls at its own pace with a clock at its back as we go… carrying it. as we go… carrying it.

It’s not ok It’s not ok But I'm not afraid And that’s all right now…

Those around cannot see the shattered path below, Though they seem to know where you should be Bravery, you have to know, is really just that hard It's is just that hard