Sorry for the long answer in advance! I started writing and got kind of carried away.
I was convinced I was going to be with my first love forever, I was so in love. I met him when I joined a new high school after my family moved countries. It's weird I walked into my first class and he was the first face I properly looked at. About 5 months later we became boyfriend girlfriend, I was 16 then. He was a HUGE part of my life during that period of time. He was an ENFP as well, we were an insanely energetic couple - it was awesome at the time.
We went from dating for a year and a half to doing long distance for a year. I broke up with him during the long distance because I felt like I was making most of the effort to stay in touch. He was in New Zealand, and I was in the Netherlands - 12 hour time difference. It wasn't easy, but it wasn't hard. I like to believe we wouldn't have broken up if he made more of an effort, but thinking back to it now I can admit I became less and less attracted to him and the idea of being with him the more I grew as a person. I was only 18 when we broke up and had just moved to a new country. Sometimes you grow apart, it's just life.
I broke up with him a year after having done long distance. It was over skype, the connection cut a few times which made it a little frustrating but we could laugh about it. We decided to remain close friends, and we really were very good close friends for quite some time. We would still talk all the time and were there for each other emotionally. I got over him during that period of time. On the phone one night I mentioned my interest in an other guy and we ended up getting into a very heated argument. Then it kind of dawned on me that we broke up by definition but having still stayed in each others lives the way we did we weren't really broken up. I felt like he still felt some sort of ownership over me, so I told him I was going to block him on everything and that I wouldn't speak to him for a while. He didn't like that, but at the time I didn't care. May have been a dick move, but in all fairness I'd do it again if I was in the same situation.
There were sooo many times that I wanted to message him, and at some point I did. We talked for a bit, then wished each other the best and went back to not talking. Months after we talked (about a year and a half after we broke up) I'd gotten into an other relationship (with my current boyfriend) my ex let me know he would be in the country we both went to highschool in for Christmas which was a few months later. I was there at the time too, we set up a time to meet - didn't go through with it. Then one day whilst out with my friends I bumped into him. We talked caught up, it was good to see him after all that time. We went to a food court and sat down, I asked him if he's completely over anything and he said "I hated the way you ended it. I'm completely over it though." He mentioned some stuff that I had said whilst we were together that he was unhappy about, which I'm glad he got out of his system. It makes me feel horrible saying this, but sitting opposite him at the food court that day I kept noticing his flaws. He had this one crooked tooth that I had never noticed before, I thought he smelled pretty bad, he had formed bad spending habits, and he kept bragging about sex. I felt like I didn't know him, and at one point I thought "I can't believe I was head over heals in love with this guy."
Now I'm with the guy of my dreams, and I am so happy. I guess you could say he was hard to find? I'm really not sure what you mean by that. I don't go out of my way to meet people, but he did come along almost 2 years after my ex if that's what you mean by hard to find? I didn't date in between, not sure why but I really wasn't keen on the idea of a relationship after my ex. I met my current boyfriend at uni. I made the first step (which is something I think more girls should do), and he's an INTP. With my current boyfriend I try to be okay with the idea of possibly not being with him in two years. I was awesome before I met him, I'll be awesome if we break up, and the same goes for him. Though that doesn't mean that I wouldn't hurt if we were to break up. I would be destroyed if we broke up. I hope I get to keep him forever, but if I don't I'm pretty positive we could both be very happy with other people. I like to picture relationships as a two person team. You can be great team members, learn from each other, grow with each other. Some teams are lucky. Things go their way, they make it through all the hurdles, they unconditionally love each other - and some teams aren't lucky. Or some teams lose love for each other. That's absolutely human, and absolutely okay.
I got over my first love. Honestly never think about him romantically, sometimes I wonder what he's up to and if he's happy - if he needs anyone to talk to. Sometimes I honestly wish we never happened. I guess I learned a lot from it, but in some ways I think I would've been better without him. The funny thing is, if I hadn't dated my ex, I probably wouldn't have met my current boyfriend.
..But yeah, that's just my story and my opinion (:
TL/DR: Yes, sometimes, yes and no. My story is very long.