So are you saying that the "pro-life with a few exceptions" view is incoherent?

Yes; even more incoherent than "pro-life" in general. It has so many contradictions and so many principles that flex based on whether the person thinks a particular woman deserves to be punished or not.

I see two polls giving support making abortion illegal in rape cases as 21 and 24 percent. That is a minority but it still is pretty sizeable, being somewhere between 1 in 5 and 1 in 4 people.

Even less than the number of people who support trump; somehow we're able to recognize the illogical, contradicting fallacies in a group that's twice the size but because /r/neoliberal's demographic is detached from the realities of pregnancy and women's rights, suddenly its important to put both sides on equal footing.

I don't see why not. Pro-life people's lives are probably still fairly comfortable and they don't want to put themselves or their families at risk through violent acts. Some people do, of course.

The lives of the American Revolutionaries were pretty comfortable to; imagine if instead of Taxes they were rebelling because the Crown was murdering baby's by the boatload.

This also assumes that, from their perspective, most people support newborn baby murder. And you want to treat their view as equally rational. Does that formula change if we take away your reproductive rights?