Forget Harvard and Stanford. It really doesn't matter where you go to college.

(n=12) Private school kids look down on public school kids. They never stop talking about their college experience and compare their alma maters with everyone. I get the impression they feel their alma mater is a very meaningful part of their identity. Their friends are Rhodes Scholars, heirs of orchard businesses, have jobs at Goldman Sachs, and some work at random jobs. Most seem wealthy. Some just went into tons of debt and complain about every cent spent. During breaks, many fly home, go to exotic locations with all of their friends (who also can afford it). There's conflict sometimes when we work in a team and we have too many leaders trying to facilitate the meeting. There is some resentment sometimes. The few that I work very closely with are excellent problem-solvers and very creative. They correct and edit my writing and it sounds so much better. A few milk their fancy degree for all its worth tutoring for the SATs, making $30-40 an hour. Overall, I'm really impressed with the group after working with them closely. However, some of them have personality quirks, i.e. being bossy, not listening that bug everybody else.

We don't have many unranked private school kids, so I won't comment there.

(n=8) Public school kids (top ranking ones) are unassuming. Some are not wealthy, but they see their education as a means to an end. They have tons of school pride, but it's centered around sports. Their friends are off in graduate school, usually not super wealthy. They have varied interests and are really passionate about them. All of them have excellent work ethic, and have hosted and planned incredible events. They are very down to earth and relatable. They oddly never talk about their classes that much.

(n=6) Public school kids (the unranked ones) are a mixed bag. Several don't write very well. I'm talking missing punctuation and mixing tenses within a sentence. A few complained about writing an 8 page paper. Others have superb work ethic and are very good at writing, but lack the confidence and fluidity in their oral communication. In terms of socioeconomic status, many are pragmatic and have bought houses already. Some are going on to graduate school, but others still have very basic jobs they could've gotten in high school. In terms of social connections and networking value, I don't see that much.

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