How I've fucked up throughout the years,
Let me count the ways (I'll try to keep it short)....
My first love once told me to tell her that I loved her (like the Cardigans song), and I said the words but I actually didn't.
Right before I broke up with her (because my heart was set on girl #2), she came to me all excited and telling me that she had just told her family that she had a new boyfriend and blah-blah-blah.
We had some really special moments, but I'll be damned if I didn't feel like shit for stringing her along for longer than I should have.
Another girl I really fucked up with because I was 22/23 and she was 17. We were both drunk, in my room, and she got naked as she told me how horny she was.
Swear to fucking god, I was too scared to fuck her because I didn't want to risk going to jail, so I figured I'd wait until she turned 18.
By then, she was no longer interested, of course. And the biggest kick in the pants? 17 IS legal in NY state. FUUUCK!!
MoralOTS: Know your state laws, boys!!
Another girl was being really flirty with me the drunker she got (I was bartending and she was a customer) and we decided to go see a band playing at some bar. Bought her a beer, stayed for a bit and we both left. As we're waiting for the taxi, she gets all giggly and all up in my face. But did I kiss her?
Fuck no, I was so unbelievably oblivious. Goddamn..
MoralOTS: If she's smiling and inches away from your face, KISS HER (and make sure you're a good kisser while you're at it)!!
Most recently, a former coworker and I decided to meet up since we hadn't seen each other in a couple of months. We have a pleasant convo, eat a great meal, get drunk, and before I know it, we're making out all over the place.
Everything was set in motion, and yet, I fucked up by not discussing what happened between us afterwards. I texted her the next morning, and we make facebook comments here and there, but I know that there's no going back.
MoralOTS: You absolutely have to man-up after a night of shenanigans and message her something like, "Listen, I had a great time last night/whenever. I have to say that I really like you, and I have to know if this is leading anywhere, or if it was just a one time thing."
That can all surely be worded much better, but you get the idea. You don't follow up, don't expect it to happen again!
Aside from those situations, I've just messed up a number of times because I'm very bad at pacing myself when I'm drinking. So instead of getting some action, I've ended up blacking out and waking up with disastrous headaches.
MoralOTS: Learn HOW to drink responsibly!