I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling so much. Coconut Oil and Tea Tree Oil (One spoonful to one or two drops mixture), Manuka Honey and 20% Zinc Oxide diaper rash creame are all topical treatments that I have seen recommended. There are soap and hygiene products that help on www.stdlifecoach.com L-Lysine supplement is often recommended but studies haven't shown any actual benefit. Monolaurin is a supplement that is supposedly able to keep the herpes virus from hiding in it's outer lipid-whatever so your body can fight it off better and form antibodies. SADBE is difficult to get and doesn't work immediately but it appears to be really effective over time (several months), there's a whole forum about it here on Reddit. I would highly recommend it, again, it's just difficult to get prescribed (off-label) or you can purchase and make it yourself (risky/difficult) and it takes time to work. I hope this helps you