Honestly the way my now boyfriend told me he had HSV which I thought was very sweet and kind, he was very vulnerable with me and he’s not a vulnerable person. He took me for a walk in the park and on the walk he told me he needed to talk to me about something that makes him insecure and is usually a dealbreaker and if I didn’t want to pursue him anymore he would understand. Then proceeded to tell me his ex gave him something that can’t be reversed and it’s something he has to deal with for the rest of his life. I began to get nervous but I could tell he was just as nervous as I was. He told me it was HSV. And me not knowing what that was I asked what it was, he told me herpes. I had previous knowledge that it can only be transferred if he’s having a flare up and he doesn’t really get them anymore. I told him well as long as you know you’re going to be with someone for the rest of your life, it shouldn’t matter. To that he picked me up in the parking lot and spun me in circles cheerfully haha. I just asked him if we can use condoms until I’m certain I’m ready for that risk. (I took the dive and now I have it too) I think it’s just a matter of finding someone who is truly invested in you and is mature about the situation. To each their own of course, it’s a serious matter. But I really truly think it’s how you deliver the message. How he told me showed me a lot about his character and therefore made me want to date him more.