The majority of the doctor that I saw take it like it’s nothing, even the gynecologist of my gf, she was like « you should not have unprotected sex, be if he is not in a crisis, it’s okkk » and same for my urologue, general doctor and stuff, most of them they don’t give a shit, it’s « normal » 

Pay close attention to your body, verify before having sex that there is not red part or pain, if you had for exemple a big party or that you feel weak / tired and stuff, maybe avoid, for my part I ALWAYS have an outbreak after a big party (not enough sleep + alcohol = outbreak), like 90% of the time for me, but it’s not the same for everyone..

Don’t stress to much, just be responsable and to take useless risk, if you have any doubt, don’t do anything, this is my rules

And from my experience, I already had some partner that really wanted to go without a candom or giving me unprotected oral sex, trust me, they don’t have any clue about the virus, most of the people think it go away and after it’s done, be responsable that’s all, for you and the others.