This is a long one but the one that hurts/irks me the most. When my husband and I were irresponsible teenager and dating I got pregnant. It was terrifying and not planned , we still had college, careers and growing up to do. We decided early on in the pregnancy to give the baby up for adoption. We contacted counselors, adoption specialists, doctors, all the right people and eventually chose a beautiful gay couple to adopt our child. We hid the pregnancy (out of shame) for as long as we could but at 5 months we had to tell our families. My family said though they were disappointed , they were proud of us for making a clear rational decision and said they would do whatever was needed to guide us during my pregnancy, adoption and the obvious depression that would come afterwards.

When we told husbands (bf) family the first thing my future father in law did was call me a slut. My future mother in law got out her phone and started calling her doctor friend. I told her we already had a doctor but she said 'i'm calling Dr.X to schedule your abortion next week.' (cue jaw dropping to the floor and argument) After that we told them about the gay couple we chose to adopt the baby. Turns out my future in laws are incredibly homophobic and were unrelenting in their mean and terrible comments and opinions.

I am disappointed to say that my husband and I caved and we told the gay couple that we would not be able to give them a baby (one of the worst things I ever had to do). We chose a new adoptive family with my future in laws having a heavy involvement in picking the adoptive parents .

Everything turned out alright in the end. We had a beautiful baby girl that we have an open adoption with and the heterosexual couple we picked are quite lovely but my heart always aches for the couple we said yes to and then turned away because of their sexuality.