I actually had a problem/misunderstanding this week with my girlfriend about my crossdressing habits. I've never actually crossdressed, just worn some underwear and swimsuits. A few months into our relationship I told her I liked to wear panties, she asked me if it was only that, and told me that if it was more she would be scared of me being transexual/gay, so I denied it and buried it.

The years passed and the urges to crossdress had been growing. It became so bad that I was searching online for people who could help me dress, I ended messaging a transexual girl I found on facebook that did makeup and dressup services. I asked if they worked in my city and forgot about it.

The next day my girlfriend saw the message and she tought I was asking for sex... She became really silent and I called her to see if everything was fine. She told me about the message and I ended up clearig the misundertanding and coming clean about my crosdressing fantasy.

She was really hurt. Hurt because I had lied to her, because I was doing this sort of things behind her back and felt responsible that she had done something wrong if I wasn't able to trust her and share everything with her.

At first she searched online about it and all the results she found were about how boyfriends/husbands who start with this kind of interests end up being trans or wish to engage in gay relationships. I told her that wasn't the case, that I don't identufy as a woman and I sugested searching for different sources.

She's more calm now. She decided to trust me, but she'e still not into the idea of me crossdressing. I tell her that I don't wish to engage in sex with anyone other than her and that my crossdressing urges are just a curiosity and desire to feel and look pretty. I've told her that I don't ned to crossdress to be happy, but that that curiosity is still within me and if I ever want to really try it, i'll talk to her about it and we will se which is the best option.

So, in conclusiion, be upfront about it. Don't make the same mistakes that I did and try talking to your SO about these kind of things. If they truly wish to be with you, they would try to understand