I have been that girl - met my boyfriend in September 2019, while I was studying abroad in Spain. I had generally been in pretty good shape at that point, and maintained it while abroad from the better diet and walking everywhere. Then I came home, and shortly thereafter, COVID hit. I started to pack on pounds pretty quickly, mostly from not being able to go out and be active as well as drinking almost everyday. This pretty much sustained through 2020. I was so stressed with how I looked. Multiple times I complained to my boyfriend about how I was gaining weight. He was always very genuine in saying that he didn’t mind it, he just wanted me to be happy with how I felt in my skin. He said “if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself, don’t do it for me. I will always love you the same.” Multiple times throughout 2020, I would tell him that I was going to start eating better and going out for walks more, since I couldn’t go to the gym. He always supported it, but never made me feel forced to do it. But it was 2020, and I was still gaining weight. We are long distance, so when I was finally able to see him, I asked if he noticed my weight gain, and he said he did (which I really appreciated the honesty and him not lying by being like, “of course not baby!”) but that I still looked beautiful to him and it didn’t bother him. Finally, about a month in to 2021, I really committed myself. I personally disliked how I looked, and I was able to commit myself to drinking on weekends, and allow one weekday for those random movie and wine nights with my roommates. I have finally started losing weight, and my boyfriend has been consistent with his dialogue; “you look amazing, and I am so happy that you are doing this for yourself.” I think a lot of us have had a rough year with drinking, motivation, and fitness. But one day, you wake up and you finally have a “I need to do this”. And it is much, much better when you can do it for yourself and not feel like you need to do it for anyone else. That was the difference for me. If you all are living together, why don’t you try to ease her into it? Make a health goal together? Something along the lines of, “I want to start eating better and drinking less, you’re more than welcome to try this challenge with me!” And even if you don’t live together, you could still say this. It may seem far easier for her when she can approach it with another person, someone she loves and respects. Furthermore, encouraging her and empowering her the next time she brings up the wedding could help; remind her she has the tools to be in shape and that she absolutely can do it. Once again, I think the pandemic really threw a lot of people for a ride, and I think for most people, the effects with be temporary. We all need a little grace sometimes, but I think with enough encouragement and empowerment, things will improve!