30F Indian American immigrant here and I'm on this commenter's side as well. I understand how stressful helicopter parents can be but come on, take some agency in the goddamn situation OP. I spent my 20s blaming all my shit on my parents and how the world functions only to come to the realization that it doesn't matter. At the end of the day, YOU made those decisions and got married. You have to accept responsibility if you want to move forward with any conviction, because that responsibility is what'll ensure you're learning from this situation and growing.

Fyi, I consumed a lot of American media to understand American/western relationships better. Therapy will also do wonders in understanding appropriate boundaries, but this really is a holistic process. Best of luck