What kind of friend? The kind that finally got sick of taking care of a grown man that's my age. For 6 months he went jobless and playing video games on our sofa because he "just can't find work", I didn't get so much as a thank your for letting him use my car for over a year (total time) or even him clean it out after he trashed it, I've put more energy into trying to get him to grasp real life skills than I care to admit. Trying to teach him to make a resume, buy a car, set up a bank account, get a date, fill out taxes, apply for school, etc. And I'm not even the first friend he's had do ALL of this for him. He's lazy and chooses to not grow up, I gave him the benefit of the doubt even though our mutual friends/his past roommates told me that they'd never live with him again. Some people just choose not to grow up.

I don't condone taking the money. But I'm not going to show remorse for doing it. If anything, it's compensation for him eating us out of house and home all the time or using my car (now without asking) and not putting gas in it, both of which have been talked about and we now hide food in our closet and I have to put my keys in a hiding spot.

I had to think about the whole "what kind of friend are you" and came to the conclusion that I wouldn't do this to someone I consider a friend. I feel like I've wasted too much on a friendship that was going one way. I feel I charged him for the service fees I ate on the account ($25 a month) and loss on things like groceries eaten, gas, and wear and tear on the vehicle. Even you wouldn't want to have to care for a capable adult that still needs to have his hand held at every step of life and refuses to learn it when you teach it. If you're okay with all this, maybe you'll take him in? I'm sure he'll do it when we tell him that we're gonna live solo next lease signing.