It's not to much to ask of anyone to simply be honest about their sexual past. You can have sex with a whole boat load of sailors if that's what you want. I'm not belittling you, but as someone who grew up believing that your first sexual experience is something special that should be shared by two people in a loving marital relationship, I feel that I was deceived and cheated. I never considered my wife as a resource to consume. You should be so lucky to be treated as well as I have treated her. I have never made her miserable because of her past. I never bring it up. It's all my fault for not asking enough detailed questions in the first place.