I mean, my partner was great and pulled his weight and was a joy to be with for 5 years and then I swear to God, we got married, and he just stopped. Stopped being honest, stopped communication, stopped pitching in or planning. Just started doing what he wanted when he wanted and blowing me off constantly. Now we've been married 5 years because I just froze. Like do I order a divorce the week after the wedding when he just started going off with his buddies all night? The year after when he's lying about plans and ditching me constantly? Is he....is he coming back?? I'm literally a deer in headlights. Maybe other have felt the same? At this point, too, I've put up with so much shit for so long, and he's fucked so heavily with my mind, I don't know what's best to do. I live off memories of the past guy.