My first marriage was similar to this. We divorced. I was on the hook for everything in the relationship while she was essentially a lump that spent all of our money on nonsense. Like a hot pink Kitchenaid mixer that never got used once and stupid 'live love laugh' Walmart level home goods. We didn't have sex for 3 years after our honeymoon and I had a lot of resentment over that. I honestly don't care THAT much about sex, but to constantly be denied was very difficult. I felt like I wasn't good enough and like I had done something horribly wrong since the beginning of our relationship was full of amazing wild sex. The last year of our relationship she wouldn't kiss me, or acted like kissing me was revolting. We had sex on our last night together and it was so lifeless and awful. After that she stopped coming home from work and went to stay with her parents. A month later we filed for divorce.

In my current relationship I am the 'breadwinner' but my partner makes every effort to hold up her half of the relationship. Sex happens. Fun happens. She's responsible and wants to improve her life. Its night and day.