Your boyfriend's misogyny is both shocking and repulsive. I don't know why you think he is redeemable? He is telling you who he is. If you stay with him, he'll use it against you by treating you in increasingly worse ways.

Your boyfriend doesn't respect women, to say the least. He finds women's trauma stories entertaining and funny, uses his girlfriend's trauma for clout to impress and gaslight other women, suggests that women lying about being sexually violated is just as common as sexual violence against women, accuses women of 'riling each other up' and exaggerating. AND then he makes you feel like you are responsible for his feelings, beliefs, and actions by saying you have to be patient and 'teach' him.

I don't understand why you're not running away from him?