I see this question only arises in context of arranged marriages. It depends on what you want in your life. If you have the option of getting to know the person well before marriage without any commitment, then go for it.

I have two instances:

One of my friends' family wanted him to finalise on a girl in the first meeting itself. He is a typical family boy and did so, got married without knowing the other person. If you are hell bent on having kids and propagating your family line, this is perfectly normal, as you'll have support from both the families with your life focussed on your kids.

Another of my friends wanted to know the boy well, spoke to him on the phone for like 3 months, and met a few times with cousins. Finally decided against it.

From your description, it seems the second approach would suit you better, get to know if the person could curtail your freedom later on. But sometimes, some families or cultures don't allow this, which is absurd. Don't do that, don't just settle for anyone.