He seems to be decently well off! He had maids and chauffeurs as a child, and hasn't really learned to clean for himself, so his adjustment to living alone in the US was hard.

I'm going off on a tangent, but my boyfriend suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of his father when he was a boy. Now, he's pretty sexually violent and likes slapping me (HARD) and biting in bed. He's into degradation and name-calling too. It's unnerving, because I feel like he's trying to regain the power and dominance that he didn't have as a child. There have been a few times where I cried because I just couldn't handle the hatred in his eyes, and we stopped and talked about it. I know he loves me and cares for me, but I, as a non-kinky person, cant fathom hurting some one you love because it's your sexual desire. I certainly need to educate myself more. I just fear we are sexually incompatible, but I feel like everything else is perfect between us.

He only just introduced me to his kinks and I'm not sure if these are "kinks" or products of an abusive childhood and a culture which is known to dismiss women as second class citizens.