As tough as this may sound you need to let him go. Yes he’s your biological father but once you become an adult you choose your own family. He decided to leave you when you were younger, not the other way around and if your “family” is willing to ruin your mom’s property is that then really people you want in your family? He didn’t pick you for his family so why should you pick him for yours? You can do so much with your life as you’re still very young and even though he never supported you still got somewhere in life. Also that bond you’re talking about, it was cut over when he decided to leave you leaving a huge mess with all the stuff he said.

He’s only back for your money, don’t let him manipulate you. Even though it may be tough, he stepped out of the father role when he left you. He’s not back for you, only for your money.