Hubby is not well. Got a case of Lakan Ookie breaking out. Could turn chronic if he doesn't get his rest and stay home for a few days right about then. For all the buildup about the wedding being the experience of a lifetime, in a year nobody but them is going to care and statistically they're both going to do it at least twice if they live long enough.

Your marriage is a partnership and either your partner is all in on making the sacrifices to be there for your potential children, and you in your old age, or he isn't. Best to find out now. This isn't the first compromise he is going to have to make, and it won't be the last.

Me, I've almost graduated from dad school - our youngest of five is in high school and her achieving majority without feeling poverty is assured. But I'm still not taking unnecessary risks until she's over that line. Between us my wife and I have six siblings. Not one of them made it to the finish line. All widowed and/or divorced multiple times, with all the unpleasant consequences for a great many children. All of them full of stories about their grand adventures and how it's not their fault.

A good man takes care of his business.