I know that you feel worse as a parent for the actions you chose, but you shouldn’t. He doesn’t value you or your wife or respect you as parents, so you’re under no obligation to give him any respect as your child. As a child of a narcissist, I’ve had to teach myself over time that the opposite is true as well.

A family is only as strong as its members choose to make it, and being related to somebody doesn’t mean that you have to love them. I’m sure that you do still love your son, which is why all of this has been so difficult for you and your family to experience. But you cannot let that love for him guilt you for your choices for the rest of your life.

Best of luck to you and your family, your son included.