You don’t need to apologize. It’s really hard to be a trans person, and sometimes we don’t always say things exactly how we want to. I understand that the invisibalization of certain transmasculine issues can be really painful. I’m in a relationship with two (lucky me!) trans men and am deeply aware of the ways in which their experiences are poorly understood by most people. I also noticed from your profile you may be autistic. I’m autistic too and often know that when I’m upset I can start to sound like I’m arguing because I have trouble expressing my feelings, when really I just want to be understood.

I think a lot of trans women just feel sensitive about this kind of stuff because, while we do get a lot more attention in lots of ways, our experiences are also often poorly understood. Being visible does not always mean that you are comprehensible, even to other queers. At the end of the day, our experiences as trans people are never so simple, and understanding the asymmetries between our experiences can be so value. However, I’m still motivated by a love for all my trans siblings, and want to see liberation for all of us.

I hope you’re feeling better.