I'm pretty certain that my father was sexually abused as a child. He once turned around at the halfway point to a family reunion that was several states away because he'd heard that a certain relative would be there. When I asked my mother about it later, she said that that relative had done something "really bad" to him when he was young but told me that I should ask him myself if I want the details.

A few years later, during the aftermath of the Penn State child abuse scandal, I woke up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and overheard my dad bursting into tears as he talked to my mom about how irresponsible Jerry Sandusky's colleagues were in not making sure he was brought to justice sooner. I'd never, ever heard him cry before.

Those two incidents, coupled with some other things I've seen and heard, make me pretty sure I'm right, but I really don't have any reason to talk to my dad about what I know; I feel as though it would just serve to make things awkward between us.