Hi, I'm an outsider with no church, but I have a question and I hope it doesn't offend anyone.

What about respecting the "monsters" and "abominations" as the divine messagers, warnings and omens they are? (I dug into the etymology of those words and their Biblical parallels and it altered how I can view them.)

My thinking is as follows: Everything has their God given work to do. The only acceptable reason to be unkind to them is self defense. Instead of creating hardship for them, or blaming them for the station and job they were born into, we should rejoice if two find each other and can share a joyful good life, while simultaneously studying and working to change the societal and ecological conditions that created them lest more suffer. We wrestle not with flesh and blood but with principalities. This would require a lot of nuance.

Or in other words, there's a huge difference between accepting something and normalizing something. Remember "love the sinner, hate the sin?" I really don't think you can love something without accepting it. Show me love anywhere that exists like that.

Maybe the problem isn't the gays. Maybe the problem is whatever is making heterosexual union less popular and desired. Maybe our question shouldn't be "What the matter with homosexuals?" but instead, "What's the matter with marriage? What's the matter with men and women's connection that it's undesirable? What's the matter with how we treat masculine and feminine traits in their opposing sex? What's the matter with our neurobiologies?"

It's all disordered. What about taking the speck from our own eyes before the log from others? Personally, as a Christian, I think I'd like to thank anyone who suffers with any disorder for their work showing us where we as a species have gone wrong. (Since that's why the Bible says they exist and all.)

So my question is: what would the church body think of this line of thinking? To both accept homosexuals without shaming them and to also see it as a failure on our own parts to manifest an ordered kingdom? To focus on prevention?