So I got vaccinated not just to protect me, but to protect him. That doesn't really work. Vaccinated people either transmit less covid or just as much as the unvaccinated. You know you could infect him even if you're both vaccinated. Sure he and you have less chances of dying, but transmissibility is either untouched or decreased to an extent. No one should be mad at me for being unvaccinated because the vaccinated too can transmit covid. In the end, the only difference is that I have higher chances of succumbing (0.2%) and your father in law has less as much.
People do not trust the government. The idea of government does not exist, don't use that word. It's politicians. People don't trust politicians. Sure I said government earlier, but I wasn't paying attention. Calling it "government" exempts politicians from any responsibility.
It is possible for your interests and theirs to align, in this case. I know what you mean. Not occupying hospital beds, sure, but I'm not at all interested in being a good taxpayer. Half my clients pay me in crypto and our tax code is so chaotic that if you know the right people you can just declare things different and legally pay zero taxes. I tell people very proudly that I've never paid income tax in my life. There are so many loopholes it's impressive.
That is one possible reason why people get so angry when you refuse the vaccine This is the part I don't understand. As I said, the vaccinated can spread the virus too and kill other people who are at risk and so can I. Which means, if anything, I'm more dangerous than they are, but both parties are dangerous. The only difference is that I may die and they have less chances. I'm endangering myself more than they are endangering themselves, but we all are endangering one another since waning "resistance", boosters and all. I'm less of an enemy than people think. I'll concede I might end up killing someone who will need the bed I'm at, but so can the doubly vaxxed who just happened to get hit by covid in the wrong spot.
By the way, what's with people wearing a mask near unvaccinated people? Isn't the mask used to protect people around the person wearing the mask? The vaccinated masked person is protecting himself from the unvaxxed by wearing a mask that protects the unmasked? Sure that makes some sense in some way, but that's not what they're aiming for.
your cancer and murder thing That analogy is hard to swallow because the mortality of cancer is way higher than covid. I understood your intent, but that's not good enough. If covid killed like cancer does, I'd be first in line to take the shot. Sorry if I misinterpreted your post and this answer sounds stupid.
seatbelts and alarms Again, mortality rate and psychology. We know what a car crash is and we know what it is like when someone breaks into your home. It's tangible. Covid is tangible only for the very few you catch, develop symptoms AND ultimately die. Car crashes and breaking ins far outnumber covid deaths. Also I guess I can assume that the average person in the world is far more likely to be involved in a car crash and have someone break into their home than catch symptomatic covid.