As a man who has been both raped and sexually assaulted, I hate to be a stickler, but I can't call this rape. If it makes him feel better, he can call it rape if he likes. But rape is doing something to somebody that they have either said "no" to or taking advantage of them when they are incapacitated. At no point, does he say "no" in this narrative. He made clear his discomfort, and she had to talk him into it, but he eventually got on top of her and thrust for 4 minutes because he didn't want to ...(I don't know which) look like a punk, make a scene.... Look, I'm not trying to make light of this because the handjob and blowjob without asking first were sexual assault. But after those he let this girl come back to his room. Then he had a discussion with her about the dangers of unprotected sex and then he climbed on her and PIV sex! I just don't want him to have this victim mentality. He has controlled so little in his life up till now. Now is the time to take that control back. And I would be saying the same thing if he was female. You don't quietly allow someone to finger and lick your crotch without loud protest, then allow them to come back to your room and talk you into climbing on top of their penis and humping until you have an orgasm. And if you do, you can't call it rape. Is that a road we really want to go down? There needs to be a loud strong "No!" or you need to be incapacitated. Was this girl four years older or more? Is the age of consent at least 16 in your state? Those are relevant to the "rape" charge. I understand that OP felt violated and taken advantage of-because he was. And he was sexually assaulted (as I already stated). But that doesn't make what happened formal rape.