As a man who used to be the controller of a long term relationship. Do yourself a favour and leave him, or if you truly love him try to make him see his own faults. What exactly is he bringing to the table to have this type of control over your life. Is he truly the man of your dreams. Is he a millionaire? Is he well respected? What would warrant you to give him this power over you? Even if he were all the above you are not a pet. I’m assuming you have your own dreams and desires? And this is just the start. I don’t know your age but you likely have many many years ahead of you. Do you really want to spend it at the mercy of someone who doesn’t respect you enough to allow live your life to your own accord? Are you sure marrying him isn’t you taking the easy way out? Once you look deeply into the phycology of control itself let alone to the degree your partner and I expected from others. You would be disgusted. Because in reality we have control of nothing expect our own minds. At any moment our life could take a turn for the worse or even end. And there’s nothing we can do about it. All we can do is control our reaction to such events. That’s it. Therefor trying the enforce you own will on other people only going to result in misery.

What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others. Confucius

Romans 16:17-18 I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive.