[Serious]How come "homosexuality is not a choice" but pedophilia is?

Honestly for me it was kind of both. At first I actually found myself uncomfortable with the idea of homosexuality. I vividly remember watching one of the first seasons of Big Brother and them having a gay black guy (Maurice I think his name was?) just acting overly effeminate and going in about how he loves clothes and how men are sexy and it just kind of... Weirded me out. It had nothing to do with upbringing (my parents have no issues with gay people and have never imprinted that on me) but I had just never been exposed to it before. It was strange and unfamiliar.

As for my own preference a lot of it did indeed start with my own projection of feeling wary about boys in general (thought they were gross, I had a lot of male friends and I have brothers so boys were just all in all the last thing I would have wanted romantically/sexually). But I felt comfort with girls. I vividly remember my neighbour saying that it was okay if we changed our clothes in front of eachother because we're girls (I was in the first grade at this point, so 5-6 years old).

It was nice and it just kind of led to me feeling more okay with being open with girls. I had no issues or fears of boys. Basic "eww cooties" kind of thoughts, really.

By the time I was about 13 I felt comfortable enough to tell my parents I was into girls but I wasn't a lesbian. (I didn't even want to call myself bi because, again, boys were gross). But I still wasn't completely comfortable with the idea of "Oh you like girls so now every girl is now a candidate for dating and then sex and marriage". I was weird and had fucked up thinking.

So to basically sum it up, I still have a strong attraction to girls. I could very much fall in love with a girl. I have been sexually intimate with girls (and not in a "barsexual" way). But as I grew older I did prefer men.

All in all, kids need to feel free to experiment. Some kids grow out of it. Some don't. Some have it tucked away in a box where their general attraction for another gender could pop up if the right person came along but it's not so strong of an emotion that you would label yourself as "bisexual".

I'm rambling, sorry.

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