Your husband fucked up MAJORLY and is continuing to fuck up by not acknowledging that OR validating your feelings. I had an unmedicated hospital birth and the only person I cared about being there at all was my husband - he absolutely got me through the pain. Like you I had otherwise amazing support people there who were wonderful and kept the ~vibes~ right, but if my husband hadn’t been there I’d have been DEVASTATED.
Labor and delivery without (and even WITH!) pain medication is by far the most intense experience women will ever have in their lives. You NEEDED him and he chose to be an absolute failure instead. He should be fucking ashamed, and you should be LIVID.
It would be one thing if he was contrite, or fell asleep on accident, but no. He did it on purpose and is digging in on this one. That’s a bold choice. He’s acting like an asshole and you can tell him I said so.
“People are gonna tell you not to be upset.”
Oh so he’s acting like a stupid asshole.