Confidence is important, but don't let it be such an important thing once you are in a relationship. Realize many people lack confidence due to just how their life has gone.

For example, I was bullied a lot for my weight in middle school, daily, in and out of school, and the main perpetrator was never suspended. It did go on into high school, but the brunt of it was in middle school. It basically stopped my sopohomore year after I lost weight, cut my hair, and got contacts.

Well, despite the harassment stopping, everything it had done to me continued. Major lack of confidence, constantly thinking about what others thought about me (in front of friends and even family). Depression ensued too.

Junior year starts, girl starts liking me, I have no interest. I start talking to her months later in March, we become close friends, start dating this June. She was my first girlfriend and first girl I was intimate with.

Well, my lack of confidence was growing smaller and smaller. I had a group of friends finally, my license, a girlfriend who was crazy for me. Life was good. But...

I hated taking my shirt off, I was afraid to even let her touch around my stomach area. I got better at it, and was getting over it, but apparently not fast enough and she blindsided me.

She said I was a pussy, and that my lack of confidence was bad despite me being an amazing boyfriend (she lied to me when she actually broke up with me and gave me a different reason). And I was there for this girl when she was hospitalized for suicidal intentions, when she went through crisis, family issues, etc. But I never let it change what I thought of her.

During sex, she'd have to have her eyes covered because she was sexually abused when she was younger. I looked past it.

It says more about her as a person than anything else, and yes not everyone is like this, but many, many people are.

Moral of the story: Go for people who are less confident, you may be the one to help them open up.