submitted 1 day ago by Aseros

How do you guys deal with it?

I broke up with my girlfriend earlier this year. We were together five years. She decided she wanted something different. I have been living alone since then.

The thing is; I moved to a different country for her. My family are elsewhere. They didn't want me to come home for Christmas as there wasn't enough space (because they have my sister's boyfriends coming over)

I have zero people to hang out with between now and, well, next year. I can't go to the party my friend is having for NYE because my ex is going, and my ex will be taking her new boyfriend, so I will be completely left out (I would be the only non-coupled person at that party)

I can't cook anything proper, because my oven is broken. My landlord decided to go back to his family at Christmas before fixing the oven. Said he will do it when he returns.

It is Christmas Eve in Sweden, the day people traditionally celebrate Christmas here. Everything is shut. I can't even get pizza. All I have to cook for myself is rice. I did have more food to cook, but because the oven is broken, I can't cook it. Regardless, I couldn't buy anything else because everywhere is shut.

Now I am crying, because this is my first Christmas alone for 27 years. I feel like I put myself in this position, when I didn't. My ex just wanted something completely different :) She did invite me to her place for Christmas to eat so I wouldn't feel alone, but she cancelled on me.

So, I am asking you; how do you cope? At the moment, I am trying to do as much work as possible to get through the day but I still can't stop thinking. I suppose, eventually, I am going to stop regarding Christmas as some special time of the year, but that may be years down the line :)

tl;dr: How do you cope being alone for Christmas?