Be kind to everyone, even if you aren't in to them. Be honest. I have done things in the name of getting off once while drunk I cringe about now. I would love to be able to legitimately apologize to everyone, but that's impossible. I have when I run into people apologized. Don't forget to learn who you are. When I started dating my partner, I realized that my hobbies were logging on to Adam for Adam, Grindr, and other sites like that. Every night I would get drunk and find someone to hook up with. When that was no longer an option, I had nothing to do. When I run in to someone I was infatuated with, i now think that person is a tragic mess. (With 2 exceptions) I was setting myself up to fall for guys who just wanted me for my dick... on their timeframe. Just isn't worth giving those people the time of day. I used to walk into a room and wonder who liked me. Now I walk in to a room and wonder who I like. If they don't like me then I will go to another room. Don't forget your friends. I would always cancel on my friends at the last minute because whatever guy I liked that day invited me to a movie or something. Don't do that. :) Don’t kid yourself. “hey come over at midnight and watch a movie” is code for let's fool around. I don’t care what anyone says, it is true for at least one of the 2 parties involved. If you really want to be noticed, do something outside of the norm. If the most original thing you can think of is dinner and a movie, go back to the drawing board. Like hikes? Go on a hike! If it’s snowing, make a snowman! Use dating as an excuse to do things that interest you. This is your one chance to separate yourself from all the other boys… so do it. When it comes to guys that are romantically interested in you… it is simple. Ignore EVERYTHING they have said and only pay attention to what they have done. If a guy you like says he will do something and doesn’t, that is a sign he is not interested. That sucks, but I can promise you there are more guys for you. Some people are not compatible. Instead of putting other guys on a proverbial pedestal, put yourself on that pedestal. It is up to other people to prove to you they are worth being in your life. Don't be a dick about it, just look at the signs. He has shown no indication that he is worthy of being in your life other than being extraordinarily attractive to you. Be original. Don't just say hey or hi when texting. I always said something random, never the same greeting twice. I've forgotten most of my go-tos for new guys, but my usual starter as a new message was: I bring to you a message from the national pancake association: "Fuck Waffles." My philosophy was I did not want to know someone who did not roll with the punches and have quick wit. I'd usually get a witty response from most. There are better and worse ways to make people fall in love with you, my way was being so god damned goofy they didn't have a choice. By doing this, I found my guy. :) A fellow goofy good-hearted nerd. When attempting to date someone and they stopped responding I would set an automated text message to send exactly 7 days in the future. It would be amusing in nature and I would spend the next week making it as funny and as random as possible. This way, instead of sending 100 texts correcting myself, all of my insecurities are displayed only to me. Usually, by the time the text message hit I had forgotten what time and day I set it for. It would go out and id await a response. If he doesn't respond, try again in 2 weeks. :) I am tenacious, so I kept the 2 week thing up for up to 6 months if guys didn't respond. Sometimes it even worked. Learn to accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you, and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. For the love of god, don’t send more than one or two text messages in response to whatever they say. It will show the before mentioned insecurities. Obviously, if it is still answering his original ask or statement, thats ok… but take everything at face value. NEVER assume he is ignoring you. If he stops responding…. SHUT YOUR TRAP. Think about it - if one of your normal friends stops talking mid conversation via text, you most likely forget about it unless you were supposed to hang out that day or are trying to set something up. You patiently await their response. You are changing how you act for this guy, and if you do that you can never show him how you actually are. Also on the texting note, never, under any circumstances should you apologize for anything you did…. Do you do that for your friends? “sorry for texting so much” “Sorry I talked to much tonight” stuff like that. Now if you like stepped on his cat, spilled something on his shirt, or keyed his car… that you can apologize for. :) But dont apologize for your personality. A good piece of advice I got from Captain Picard: “If we are going to be damned, let’s be damned for who we really are.” Such good advice. Be you. If they don’t like you for you… then it will not work out no matter how hard you try. BUT make sure you are being you. I used to be waiting for texts from guys and respond to them immediately. But if my sisters or friends texted me, they were a lower priority and I’d get back to them when I wasn’t doing whatever I was doing. I changed my behavior because I liked these guys. Should I post this on the main page?