It isn’t BS, I will be happy to take the downvotes. A lot of NT partners here are letting of some stream because they are being abused. You can’t deny that reality just because you don’t like it. A relationship that is always standing on its edge with your partner ready to meltdown/fall apart/otherwise not deal with life like an adult, is never good, even when it’s good. Many of us want to enjoy it, but when you don’t know when the other shoe will drop, it’s impossible. I used to compartmentalize my happy times and separate them from the bad, but hey! That’s what abuse victims do, right? My view isn’t distorted at all, it’s the product of 8 years of confusion and therapy for a marriage I’m still in. I’ve met other people with ASD and narcissistic tendencies, I have often wondered if there is a component OR if maybe they aren’t ASD and only narcissists. I am not an “expert”, but it is a major observation I’ve had in my life and on here when partners outline their abuse. It’s something for us to pay attention to, ASD is a rapidly developing spectrum in the world of psych, so how are we sure that narcissism doesn’t exist in ASD? It’s important to let people share their experience, even if and when it doesn’t match what you know, so we can all learn.