Yep. My partner and I have had exactly the fight OP describes. After not asking how my day was and instead just telling me all about his, I would say things like “I’m so tired today” and instead of acknowledging that feeling, my partner would instead just tell me how tired he was. Any feeling I offered was met with some sort of one-up. He never did it deliberately but I don’t think he ever realized it until he did it one day and I just replied to say ‘you know, it would be nice for me if you acknowledged the feeling I just shared’. Now we do not have this problem.

Maybe OP doesn’t acknowledge (or thinks that they’re having a conversation) when for her it feels like one sided talking at her instead of talking with her. There are better ways to handle it, but I can 100% relate to the way OP’s wife responded if that’s what’s happening.