It does take courage to do one thing right, such as the perfect lipstick or earring, and to take the risk of doing nothing else. This is not boring. It is classy. But it can feel boring.

If you feel boring, and keep accessorizing until you feel fine, you have gone too far. Other people do not see you the way you see yourself. They are not bored. YOU may be bored because you are always you. YOU need to be entertained with your same old self.

But others can find that unapproachable. Too complete unto yourself. If you want to relate to others, stay boring because it is not boring really. It just feels that way.

Most people have enough of their own anger and don't need anyone else's. Most people are desperate for some fun. Cheerfulness and positivism. If you are calm and not angry, or even cheerful, you will be the one who gets all the choices.

Other people's anger is like other people's dreams. Not interesting to others. It is like a drama in progress. People tiptoe by, not wanting to interrupt. Not a good way to increase your choices.

Increasing your choices is the point. Then you can decide exactly what you want.

If your accessories say TOO much about you, it's not good. It is more productive to let other people fill in the blanks in their own minds.

Do not be afraid you can't say "no" to the wrong people. You absolutely can. At any time. That is never a problem.

The people who might pass you by for another woman who is more decked out might be the wrong people anyway.

So sure, accessorize. But each accessory is a message. It is clearly read by others. If you send too many messages, the impact is garbled and confusing.

It is indeed hard to figure out what are the right things for you, and on what occasion.